April 21, 2013

Volunteering Sometimes, the language helps us to reformulate the reality or perpetuate it in their vices. When we express the message of our interlocutor with other similar words (sometimes euphemistic and sometimes more adjusted to reality), we can help you find a new approach in the solution. One older person can tell us: my daughter is a descastada and one undesirable that never remembers me. Our response can not reassert that view since it would deepen the chasm between mother and daughter and even get into a problem with the family. In fact, when our task will be to try to rebuild ties. Without removing the reason we respond something like: I understand, are very disgusted with the attitude of your daughter. The most frequent error of whom reformulates is to faithfully reproduce the opinion of another person. In the example that we are discussing the leg could put responding: If, as I understand it, I realized that her daughter is a miserable that has forgotten about you. And some volunteers will end with a formula fatal: but don't worry, I'm here that I will come to see you. Only thus we got more rouse the spirits of the other person, without causing you any emotional relief and few practical compensation. It is often more successful to start conversations - especially with strangers - when we use themes neutral, outside personnel waiting for the other (this place is nice, he saw the game yesterday?, do you hear about what happened this morning in the gran Via?, we have a time of dogs) if we have opportunity, is very advantageous to know beforehand the centres of interest of the other person. In the case of older persons, their centers of interest can turn lathe to his family or his memories; If we talk about children, games, computers, football, school topics that we can use to attract their interest and playing more forward other issues). Recommended, in general, the use of open (and what questions did it happen?, how do you feel?, why it affected you...
Social Volunteering Blessed is the volunteer who not only enrol in your volunteering, but is formed and constantly reported everything to not mess up. Above all, if memory does not learn the lesson, but it adapts the training to their motivations and their personal characteristics. Blessed is he who knows planning your life not having to fail when its commitment. Lucky if you know combine the February exam, the walk with her boyfriend, the match of Real Madrid, the weekend cups and physiological needs with its voluntary action. And, in case of conflict, blessed if your common sense leads him to not leave out that activity where one is involved person excluded. Blessed if, in cases of force majeure, you know use the phone or resort managers of programs or volunteer companions so that they do not have with him. Blessed is the volunteer who knows how to live and work with those who do not think like him, his fellow volunteers in the first place. And blessed if you intend not to dress the monkey's camouflage to drag proselytes toward another ideological platform that is not selfless service to others. Blessed is the volunteer who knows that the outcast is not lower, upper, or more good or more evil than him. That will know to distinguish the common which unites us to the human beings and the differences that make us learn from one another. Blessed those who don't first see a black or a white, a poor or a rich, they know first see humans and then the richness of adjectives that define it. Venerable if first you know OK itself with its nuances and want to be, that will accept the other as it is without having to tolerate it, despite its squalor. Blessed is the volunteer who knows how to work in team and is not Superman or Spiderman much less (the hombre-arana which climbs).